Gender Stuff

We met with a friend of ours who always annoys me when she talks about her ex boyfriends or future possible boyfriends. With her, it's all about guys being disappointing, not measuring up, being too nice, not being 'manly' enough. I have a huge issue with this sort of thing, and obviously a certain degree of self-consciousness is part of it. I don't understand how a women can expect men to treat her as an equal, in a progressive way that doesn't rely on traditional gender role stereotypes, and yet think it's perfectly acceptable to talk about men in a totally regressive way. She'll talk for hours about how she only likes guys who are tall, dark and manly in front of someone who's not tall, dark or manly. If I ever even hinted that I broke up with a girl because I wasn't attracted to her, because she wasn't small, curvy and 'girly' (my wife is hardly a Barbie-type, and I appreciate many different body-types on women), it would sound soooooo offensive, patriarchal and blah dee blah blah. I can't stand hypocritical double-standards. I, as a progressive man, try to get past societally impressed stereotypes about how women are supposed to behave, look and present themselves, and I expect women to do the same.